Most self-help books are not self-help books. They're 'maps.' They are the author's self-help recipe, and map to what works for them. Which is why, a lot of times, following the 'map' works for a while, and then it doesn't. The BEST self help book tells a parable, guides us and gives us clear information, but leaves a part of the 'map' open to interpretation, because the only way to truly help yourself is to adapt the 'map' to your own unique expression.
And if the self-help gurus give us the 'map' and tell us to do it their way, they leave us out of the equation. Hence, the reason that so many great gurus say the story must be learned in parable.
We have to work at it, become a part of it, in order for the guidework to be successful. The enigma, the "problem" to solve, the parable to understand, is actually just a way of putting US (I Am) into the equation.
My personal favorite guru is Beca Lewis, who wrote Living in Grace - The Shift to Spiritual Perception (you can read about Beca and get the book by clicking on the link)
Two others I follow faithfully are Michael Masterson and Perry Marshall. What they say is pertinent, clear, evocative and inspiring.
The three follow different focuses but the message is pretty clear....
Here's to your balanced equation!